Every lady dreams of that special day, when she finally gets to say yes to her man, however, there are certain shadows in the dark you should be aware of, which might warrant you rejecting the proposal, or in extreme cases, calling off the relationship.
It is one of the best feelings in the world to finally have your man propose you spending the rest of your life with this, but that is simply not satisfactory. Marriage is a life long commitment, hence it should not be agreed on at the spur of the moment if not, the same pattern follows all through the marriage.
If your partner has commitment issues, then you might want to reevaluate your response to that proposal. Marriage is all about commitment, if you cannot commit at the courtship level, then committing in the marriage would be harder, because, in the true sense of things, marriage changes nothing, the only difference is that your decisions are mostly influenced by your partner.
When your partner has shown signs that they can be distracted and end the relationship based on this, it is time to consider if you can spend the rest of your life with someone like that. Marriage is not a game, hence a lot of things should be carefully thought about before jumping the broom.
Stability is also a great trait to help in making in that decision forever. is your partner emotionally stable? If not, how can they handle the many rocks marital life would throw at you both? If this is the case, you don’t necessarily have to call it off. If you believe it can be worked on, then give it time, and let them know the reason why you are stalling your acceptance of the proposal.
Also, if you are not emotionally stable, please don’t put someone else through the tedious task of trying to fix you. Coping with stress and pressure would be a lot easier if you and your partner are both emotionally stable because marital life is full of ups and downs for sure. Remember the saying that life is not a bed of roses? 
Compatibility is a huge ball game in the circle of marriage. While it is true that opposites attract, it is important to note that the differences should be balanced in both partners. If you and your partner never agree on anything, then it wouldn’t be wise to accept a proposal from them. Marriage is about two mature adults who are willing to compromise and make things work, regardless.
This would lead to the evaluation of basic life values. Do you both believe in the same thing? Can you compromise on certain things? What are your individual deal breakers? These should be carefully thought about before you put that gorgeous piece of precious stone around your fingers, and nod your head in agreement.
If you believe your partner is popping the question to escape something or it is tied to an emergency that isn’t arising from your own end, then you might want to think about going head-on into that marriage.
Proposals are confirmation of a bigger level of involvement, hence it shouldn’t be based on a two-second decision to get married to someone. Other things being equal, you are expected to spend the rest of your life with such a person, hence it is best that they are not taking the decision in a haste. It should have been carefully thought of.
Well, apparently, you don’t have to say NO when they make the proposal, all that matters is understanding from both sides, the rest would be sorted out. *Wink*
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