A lot has happened in the past few months, to make us realize that relationships are indeed important and equally as fragile. It hurts to know that you have loved all over, but you can’t see them physically or even better give them a reassuring hug.
The good news is the persistence of this pandemic, doesn’t necessarily cut off all major relationships, and most especially romantic relationships. It would surprise you to know that some relationships are getting back on their feet during these hard times. As a couple in a relationship, how do you keep the fire burning during the lockdown? Here are things you should consider doing in order to achieve this.
Set up regular video calls: With the looming extension of this pandemic, more virtual platforms have emerged from the shadows. You and your partner can plan regular video calls, per time, and the interesting thing is you don’t have to talk all the time! Just seeing that partner is doing ok is enough conversation for those who have lost topics of discussion. No one can be blamed as there is a scarcity of things to talk about when the whole nation is experiencing a lockdown.
If your partner doesn’t mind, you can introduce a third party once in while into your video conversations to spice things up. You could also plan a dinner date by video calls, Heck! people are getting married online these days. Be free to express whatever emotions you are experiencing as well, as that is the only outlet in these times.
Engage online games: About half of the world’s population is getting bored staying still at home, hence there is a rise in the use of social media. It is simply a no brainer that everyone would hop on social media by default. While you stay at home and wait for things to change, you can set up virtual games with your partner or word games over the phone.
Bear in mind, that the end result is not to fish out the smarter person or to produce a winner, but to keep each other’s company per time. There are tons of games you can play by merely searching them out online. The good thing is seeing that is a global emergency, a lot of creativity has been invested in late, with new concepts and trends emerging each day.
Take care of yourself: Social distancing is not an excuse to careless about yourself, as this would be projected unto your relationships, both romantic and even platonic. It is hard for a lot of people out there, hence to keep our sanities, we need to first and foremost, be in check with our feelings and behaviors.
Taking care of your self is one of the best gifts you can give to those you love and those who love you because they don’t want to lose you!
Be emotionally intelligent: If there is any time you would need your emotions to be in check, more than ever, then it is this period. This is not the time to throw blames around, over little things. It even gets worse because you can’t fully read your partner’s emotions and reactions, hence a lot of misunderstanding might be in play.
Don’t act irrationally. Ensure your study the situation at hand properly before reacting or drawing conclusions. Nobody is having it easy, hence it is pertinent to limit the possibilities of conflict.
Be Brave: As much as we would like to all sit around and just wait for these times to be over, it is also important that hope is kept alive. You would give anything right now to see and hug your partner right now right? Then don’t give up on the situation, keep hoping that things get better. In fact you can begin making plans for all the places you would both visit when the atmosphere is calm and we finally get to walk around freely once more.
This would give your partner, or even those around you reasons to want to get up in the morning and look forward to a better day.
Your relationship doesn’t have to go on a vacation by reason of social distancing, all it takes is understanding and communication. We are all in this together, we would survive this and be victorious over the pandemic. In the meantime, stay home, and keep safe. You’ve got this!
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.