It gets to a point in one’s life, when the clock is ticking and you feel time is running out. When you almost hit 40 and still single you begin to panic.You begin to get Paranoid and you feel restless like you have fallen short of life. You begin to make wrong decisions and sometimes get into depression.
Sometimes it can get really lonely when you almost hit 40 and still single. Especially when most of your friends and Family are mostly married and have children. It sure makes one feel out of place and you begin to play back events in your life and wish you had done this or that.
Here is the deal, it is really not the end of the world when you almost hit 40 and still single. You still have your life ahead of you and need to make bigger plans for yourself.
Here are 5 things to do to get by
1. SET REALISTIC AND MEASURABLE GOALS
Remember you still have your life ahead of you. At this stage of your life, you are obviously matured and have an idea of exactly what you want. Make a list of your life’s goals and deal with each of them one at a time. Life goals like Career,business,relationships,spiritual life etc. Regardless of where you are in life, you have every right to aim for more..
2 GET OUT MORE AND BROADEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
If you are not in any dating relationship, you don’t need to give up just yet. Get out there and meet new people. You are never old to meet someone new. Don’t feel awkward when you bump into your married buddy with kids. Just be you enjoy the moment Meet new people at events or church or even work Be open to meeting new people Don’t fade off from existence. It really pays to meet quality people, asides dating you get to be inspired by very nice folks.
This is practically one of the sure fire ways of killing boredom. Volunteering for things that make you happy will defintely add more years to your life. Taking charge and taking up responsibilities outside of work and mainly around what you are passionate about will get you engaged. When you belong to clubs or societies it engages you more and helps you live your passion. Get passionate about what you love to do.
4 DO NOT LIVE A TRIANGULAR LIFE
By a triangular life we mean a life that has no life to it Just like it’s either you are at work,church,or school. infact your life activity is like a triangle. You are either at work, school or church. Absolutely nothing in between. Get a life, is what most people will tell you. Do things you enjoy. Take a vacation, plan a trip. Life is meant to be lived. Like a poet said. Life is absolutely for the living.
5. MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR LIFE WHILE SINGLE
When you almost hit 40 and still single, you have all the time to pursue all you want. Who says you can’t have a house built or hve great Assets and mega investment. one of the benefits of being single for quite sometime is that it helps you be more organized and grow in your career and business. You are able to do this through the power of foccus. This involves getting yourself ready for marriage and bringing your best to the marriage table by having the best quality of marriage you want. ie if you want your kids to go the best schools when you eventually have them, you have all the time to set this in place.
So being single and almost hitting 40 is not a blue print for Depression. Make the most out of it before you meet that special someone or what do you think?
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.