For most couples, intimacy is an integral part of what keeps the bond. Though most couples hate to admit it, physical intimacy is actually as important as the foundation of the union itself.
Many couples have drifted apart as a result of this basic physical intimacy activity. It has gotten so bad that partners would rather maintain their distance due to one thing or another with regards to intimacy. As one side of the equation, you might have gotten yourself worked upon the many reasons why your partner might be refusing to get intimate, whether it has been a long term decision or an occasional feature.
In a relationship, there are no rooms for second guesses, when you find out your partner is deliberately refusing to get intimate, there are 3 things you can do;
Communicate: Although communication is an essential feature of every strong relationship, now is the time you would need that more than ever. Set the ball rolling in that direction. If you notice that your partner won’t come out of the closet with regards to their sudden disinterest in intimacy, you can approach him/her in a manner that would be beneficial to the conversation. However, if your partner refuses to talk about it at that moment, give them some time, most often times than not, they usually come around much later.
Be Sensitive: Could they have left clues all along, but you simply ignored them because you were not sensitive? Some times, your partner might hint you on the reason why they are avoiding intimacy, through words, or deep and shallow actions. It is left to you, to be at alert and pick up these signals being left by your partner during this period. Who knows, you might well be on your way to becoming the most valuable detective in the relationship. Jk!
Be Patient: When you have exhausted all your options, the least thing you could do is to exercise patience with them. They are probably dealing with an emotional issue at the moment, and would not want to burden you with their fears. If you could be more patient with them, then you could score a bonus point of being a very understanding partner as well.
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.