Have you ever wondered why most people are found attractive by their partner even though others consider them to be rude? Well, the reason is, they know how to be romantic which is something every relationship desires.
Our day to day couples reveal that small acts of affection between couples can help strengthen the relationship. Actions like giving a partner a tight hug, a kiss, or even an unexpected gift can mean as much as sex. It is all about living your own life and experiencing the ups and downs of your partner’s life as well as helping each other through life.
The 5 ways to consider which propels Irresistibility in relationships are;
1. Communication
Communication in a relationship is very different from communication in the business world. Communication in the business world is straight without the use of flirtatious gestures. But a romantic relationship requires you to become soft when speaking to your partner. It does not mean weakness, rather it is a show of affection and tenderness.
Also, learn to talk about almost everything with your spouse including his/her annoying habits which you do not find comforting. Talking about everything helps to seal loopholes, I mean, things that should have caused issues will be solved if communication is not delayed.
However, in communicating with your spouse you must consider the following;
- Time and manner of approach
Not every moment is a good moment, study your partner, understand his/her best moments, it could be in the morning, afternoon during break at work or even at midnight. Understand what time is suitable for either a request, a suggestion or a caution.
- Environment
The places at which you talk about certain issues matters a lot to some people. Bringing up an existing argument in a public place such as a cinema, church or even a birthday party becomes a turn off for some people. You must ensure that you have the right environment to bring up the right conversation.
You should read the article on 7 keys to a happy home to understand communication better
2. Life’s purpose
Everybody wants to be understood in their dreams and plans. It will be unkind to be in a relationship where your purpose of working is not understood by your partner, it brings low drives to achievement and as such, makes a person consistently angry.
Purpose is what makes a person attend to work every day, it is what makes a person eager to rise up early and do some work he/she would not have done if there was no reason to work. So purpose is important and for a relationship to excel, one must understand the purpose of the other.
Your purpose could be anything such;
- Financial stability
- Ensuring that your children do not suffer what you suffered
- To help the orphans
- To upgrade your educational qualification which requires yourself to finance it.
- To become the most influential person in the world of business
- To rule over offices of authority with your influence. Etc.
Anything that serves as a purpose must be considered important and when both parties in a relationship treat each other’s purpose with importance it gives peace and so much adoration of strength in the relationship. It is not easy to run the relationship and attend to one’s purpose with so much ease, it requires agreement and understanding from both parties.
3. Love languages
Love language could be anything that pleases your spouse. Something that when you do, it makes your partner to be extremely glad and respectful as well as builds deep affection towards you. According to Gary Chapman in his book ‘The five love languages’, it shows that different persons with their different personalities are what explains their love language.
The love languages which are proven by renowned writers are;
- Words of affirmation
- Receiving quality gifts
- Acts of service
- Quality time
- Physical touch.
Here is a great article on everything you need to know about the five love languages
A close observation of couples have shown that almost everyone has a love language and when well understood it makes a person romantic in his/her partner’s eyes. To love someone is easy if you understand their love language. Life is easy too if you study people inwardly.
Encouragements, giving, spending time and even hugs are ways of showing that you understand and support your partner. Study which one is your partner’s language and apply it but not too often. Excessive use of it can be choking.
4. Finance
Do not be deceived, money is a romantic tool. With money you can satisfy the love language of your spouse especially if his/her language is giving quality gifts or even acts of service.
There are some services you cannot provide if you do not have money. Services such as;
- Road trip
- Skiing
- Karaoke
- Jazz night out etc.
I do not mean you should be extorting but have a zeal to make more money and enjoy your relationship. Think of different ways to increase your financial status. Money solves some annoying habits in relationships and increasing it makes you mature to handle these habits when they occur.
5. Romantic Flirt
What I mean by flirt is this, be open, touch, wink, gaze and make arousing approaches at your partner. Flirting makes the relationship fun and not boring like the usual relationship our grandparents had. It becomes very sweet when your partner pops out and tap your butts unexpectedly.
These are little things but when they lack in the relationship, boredom sets in and when boredom sets in, there is a tendency that the presence of your partner may be annoying therefore, spending time together might not be as thrilling as before. Flirting with your partner increases the lifespan of your relationship.
Imagine what would have happened if in our current society we cannot kiss or hug our partner in public? Trust me, we would have made no difference from what our grandparents had. So be open, flirt with your partner, it creates curiosity mixed with desires.
Conclusion
One must understand that romance is not all sex but all value. To be romantic means adding more values to your partner’s life and bringing to light your own irresistible charms in terms of love, wealth and life in general.
