How often do you see men nagging in a relationship? On a scale of 1-10 between both parties, women are on 8-10 while men are on just 3-10. That is not very encouraging because nagging is unhealthy for the union.
Women nag for petty reasons sometimes, reasons such as house chores, work loads or even when they are having mood swings, in fact, women nag when they feel uneasy about a particular event or person.
Between both parties, women have been known as the one with nagging gifts in the relationship. But have you ever wondered why men do not nag as much as women do? Here are three reasons why;
- Slow Processors
- His mindset is bent on money related issues
- Love
Slow Processors
Although this is not scientifically proven but based on years of observation, I have come to discover that when it comes to processing certain information aside office related issues.
Some men are slow, they take their time and try to understand every angle and side effects of the conversation before they can even begin to think of the solution.
Men listen then process before speaking, whereas women listen and process the information at the same time, in fact, the latter even add imaginary scenarios in their head as the conversation is ongoing.
Men are not quick with processing information as much as women are, before a man could finish processing a conversation or deeds, they must have gotten tired in thoughts thereby nagging is off the list.
Once they are able to provide the answer which they believe to be the best for the conversation, they are out, but a woman can keep going on because she has more visible images and patterns of what ought to be said and should be said therefore she continues talking on and on.
Quick thoughts are not very easy for men to come across, for instance, ask a man to choose the colours for the wedding.
Give him three minutes to provide answers and he will be pressured, whereas a woman can answer this in seconds and even describe the whole occasion in three minutes.
The woman’s mind is vast and filled with many options, images and occasions. This I suspect to be a natural design.
His mindset is bent on Money Related Issues
Without much argument, we can all agree that from the onset, men are more money-oriented than women. They are occupied with thoughts of how to make more money because they believe that if there is more money, the relationship will be smoother (no doubt). Yes, money is very sweet for love, believe it.
Men see perfection and peace in the quantity of money thereby minor things such as washing the clothes, sweeping, mopping the floor or even developing habits that fosters growth in other aspects of life aside work seem like a whole load of stress to them.
Therefore the minor things that cause a woman to nag are of less importance to him. He does not see why the plate should be washed immediately after eating because to him, the next thing should be going off to business meetings; the plate will be washed when next he wants to eat.
On the other hand, the woman believes that cockroaches and other insects may pester around if the plates are not washed immediately after eating, also, if the insects should pester around it will result in total cleaning of the house and that is more work for her, so she gets angry when the pile up becomes much and when she cannot hold it anymore, she begins to nag.
A Man’s Love
Well, we cannot jump the 3% men who see nagging as a good way to correct the woman in the relationship.
Among this 3%, some men are more gifted than a typical woman because they believe that by constantly talking at the top of their voice in an angry tone is the best way to correct the wrongs in the system of the woman.
However, out of this same 3% men who nags well, there are some who have consciously overcome the nagging habit because they have been overwhelmed by love.
The way some of them feel when in love is so special that nagging takes a seat off the list just to be happy in the relationship and to please their partner.
Indeed love has a way of making things good, especially a way of erasing the habit of nagging off the list permanently.
This is the point where you hear some people say “he changed because of love”. A loving man is an awesome asset in a relationship.
And when he decides to understand the relationship he goes out to find means of understanding it whereas, a woman may decide the same but get angry along the way and start nagging.
Some of the issues that pop up in most unions are due to an ability to understand each other’s nature, the nature of a person determines the behavior they put on, the habits they exhibit, their mindset and even related patterns.
CONCLUSION
We see nagging as an expression of anger, truly, different people have their different ways of pouring out anger over issues, this is due to how they see things (perceptions) and the background they come from.
Some people nag when they are angry, some murmur or fight while some become more intense and calm.
It all depends on the way they view the situation at hand and the conscious efforts they put in order to handle such issues.
Normally, men hardly participate in nagging as much as women do. Some men will just walk out of the house to freshen their mind while some will reply with the same energy they feel is right.
In any case, men hardly nag because their nature does not provide them with enough backup instincts that quickly tells which is wrong or right.
So the moment spent in deciding which is wrong and which is right already drains them of the nagging skill. Energy that would have been more useful at the office or in other important situations.
Here is an great article on how to fix the broken pieces in your relationship.
