Times have changed and a lot of adjustments are being made to fit into the new lifestyle, post-COVID. Most importantly, relationships are witnessing dramatic changes and this has even seen a rise in the rate of online dating.
Though it is a risk getting hooked to someone online, the success rates are not as bad they used to be in the past. online dating has now become a huge part of almost every culture, that has welcomed technology with arms wide open.
If you have found yourself caught up in such a situation of falling in love with a person online, then its almost natural that you nurse doubts about this person, most especially if you both haven’t met physically. However, there are certain things that pass the signals of whether or not this person is actually genuine or not.
First and foremost, you need to weigh the effort they are making in the relationship. Are you the only one who does all the work? Do they also try to make things better, and lastly, how eager are they to see you? This would make you know what exactly you are on for, and how to handle things, and come to the conclusion of them being genuine about the relationship.
In as much as the relationship has been fostered online, you both need to make plans towards building the bond physically. If he/she is not as thrilled to meet, then there might be a major problem in the connection and overall vibe. The attraction should fuel the meetup process, hence if they are not excited or thrilled at the thought, then you might be expecting emotional saga.
Do they say things and mean it? Online dating is much more intense than the others because when emotions are heightened, a lot of things could go wrong. Imagine trying to get through to your bf/gf, and their number sin not going through, only for them to call you back the next day, saying that they deliberately switched it off. How would that make you feel?
Dating online comes with its own baggage and this is just one of them. The fact that you cant see the person react physically, draws a huge line of a challenge because you can only rely on what you hear over the phone, or worse, what you perceive via a chat. So if they make a mistake with punctuation during a heated argument, things could o south. laying this background for other actions, if they say things and don’t mean it, or act it, then te relationships might just be another disaster waiting to happen.
We might want to shy away from this fact, but financial responsibility is also a good pointer on whether or not your online partner is genuine. You are both bounded by the limitation of the online space, where a lot of fraudulent activities are carried, hence it is not out of the picture to consider everyone a potential scam, which leads to the next question, how do they handle financial stress.
If you meet your partner online, most especially if you have both yet to establish the connection in person, it might be out of place to begin making financial requests, considering the fact that the relationship is still based on a huge step of faith. The same applies to your partner as well. If all they do is to request for financial help, and they never make plans on how to repay the debt or even commit to your own finances as well, then there is a huge possibility that he/she is not genuine, because the hard truth is that without you, they didn’t rob a bank, hence having you in their life shouldn’t be the worship of financial responsibilities.
Lastly, be true to yourself, the right person would also locate. Ensure that your intentions are pure, that way you set up your universe for people of like minds to connect with you online.
What has been your inline dating experience so far?
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.