Relationship, Communication, and Trust are the peas in one pod, that should never be underlooked no matter the circumstances. Communication and Trust are the two most important pillars of every healthy relationship, on which other things are built.
The lack or absence of any of those two would grant access to a lot of strife and misunderstanding, and truth be told, these are things that can actually be avoided regardless of the situation.
Most people go into relationships with the mind to be loved and be cared for, and in the same breath, love and show care their respective partners, but what do you when you don’t trust the person you claim to be in a relationship with?
Sometimes, we tend to get into a new relationship with the pieces of baggage of the old one, and we see that the same pattern ends up repeating itself. If you have recently just exited a relationship, don’t be in a hurry to get into the next one, simply because you are bleeding, the truth is, you will only end up complicating matters.
Give yourself a lot of time to heal, and be sure that you are not taking along with you wrong notions from the last one into the next. Let go of all the things that might have happened to you in the past, and once you are sure that you have recovered, then you can go on into the new relationship.
This is usually the foundation of most conflicts in a relationship because subconsciously you keep waiting for your partner to do the exact thing your ex did, which might never happen in all honesty, except you manipulate the situation in your favour. Be openminded about your new partner.
Now that you are in a new relationship, don’t rush things. Take it easy and slow, that way, you allow yourself time to study who you are truly dealing with. Don’t make an assumption about what kind of person your partner is, relax and get to know him/her.
If you rush into making conclusions, you might make mistakes building your expectations of your partner, hence, when things go south, it would be so easy to lose trust in him/her.
Besides, different situations manifest different behaviours, so don’t think because (S)he refused to pick a friend’s call in your presence when you are both together, means (S)he is doing the same to you in your absence. Don’t Rush.
So you’re thinking the two points above don’t apply to you because you have had a major conflict with your partner and you don’t trust them anymore? Good news is you can restore your relationship back to factory settings.
How? Start on a clean slate! While you’re doing this, let them know that this is your decision, hence they act accordingly. It is important that while you are willing to on the journey of faith once more with them, they don’t leave you hanging, after all, a relationship is a two-way street. It involves two people, who are ready to put in the work to see that things go on perfectly.
You cannot trust Love without Trust, and trusting them doesn’t mean being blind to their flaws as well, but simply stating that you will be there through the journey of self-improvement.
Have you ever been caught up in a situation that made you lose the trust you had for your partner? Let’s hear it!
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.