In every relationship, there is always the need to spice things up by being romantic, most especially if it has been intended to be a long term relationship. It is mostly relatable when you are in a relationship with a person whose love language is quite different from yours.
Most of the time, misunderstandings arise as a result of failed expectations from both sides, and these misunderstandings in the past have led to a couple of irreconcilable differences and ultimately ended relationships prematurely.
If you have a demanding partner, in terms of being romantic, you don’t have to beat yourself up about not learning the ropes before finding yourself in such a relationship, and that being said, the truth of the matter is that everyone wants to feel loved, hence being romantic, kind of comes with the package of committing to a relationship, however, it still boils down to how your partner would like to be loved.
Everyone loves a surprise, (a pleasant one anyway) and so does your partner as well. Surprising your partner shows that you are thinking about them, reinforcing the fact that they are always in your thoughts. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a gift, you could also surprise them with your presence (terms and conditions apply) when they least expect it.
There a lot of ways to get creative with surprising your partner, and distance should never be a barrier, not even in this time where everything seems to be online. The joy you receive upon successful execution should be enough to keep you going next time.
You really don’t have to keep doing the same over and over again, where is the fun in that? Instead, look for things that interest your partner, and this you would find, by constant communication and in-depth research.
Being spontaneous comes with the package of being noted as a romantic partner. It serves the ability to think outside the box as well, and this is important to keep the spark and fire burning. See your partner as your personal project, that you need to constantly improve on, and you would find it easy to maintain your spontaneity.
It could be a late-night date, or simply a visit to the mall, the most important thing, is to keep on your partner on his/her toes, waiting for the next stunt you will pull on them to make them happy. The keyword is Fun. Remember you have to do things the way everyone is doing it, make your relationship peculiar, and watch love flourish.
Sharing all the aspects of your life shows that you want your partner to remain in your life for a long time. Sharing even your darkest secrets is an indication that you are vulnerability and that is an important ingredient of being romantic.
It is also important to be aware of the manner in which you share these bits of important information. Be sure not to share them in such a way that your partner thinks you a simply doing it as a duty, this way the bond between you two is strengthened.
Not only should you share information, share special moments as well, depending on how well of a social bug your partner is, you can invite them over for important moments in your life from time to time.
Express you emotions
You feel like telling them I Love You over the phone, tell them. You want to hold their hands in public, hold it. You want to place a kiss on their forehead, do it. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, because every moment is perfect.
Showing your emotions is a huge way to show how romantic you are. Emotions are to be expressed, hence what’s the point of hiding it, when it should be shown to the whole world. The next time you feel a nudge to show emotions, do it without holding back.
Pick new hobbies with your partner
Picking a new hobby with your partner is a great way to show that you are very romantic, and in the long run, strengthens the bond between you both as well. It is not entirely important how good you are at the hobby, what matters is the effort you put in to show that your partner is worth so much to you.
Eventually, you might find that this hobby, sustains your love for each other, and also adds some spark to the relationship, where needed.
Showing that you are romantic and being romantic, is definitely a not rocket science, and in as much as it might an effort you are making, you should also see it as fun.
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.