Every relationship is entered into with an end goal in mind. However, sometimes, these relationships may fall short of the original plan and ruin those happy moments.
While some enjoy the comfort that comes with a long term relationship, others are wallowing in the pain of a prematurely ended relationship, which shouldn’t have even been considered in the first place.
There are certain signs that you should look out for when it comes to building a relationship that lasts, and don’t get it twisted, you don’t have to wait for your partner to exhibit these traits before you begin to consider the exit door. To make it easy, here are 5 ways to know when you need to do the needful;
You find it hard to forgive: Love comes with hurt, and so also does forgiveness. If you are finding it hard to forgive that person you claim to love, then the relationship is gradually withering. In most romantic relationships, misunderstanding is almost inevitable, and it takes two understanding people to come to a compromise when this happens.
Forgiveness goes beyond trying to justify who is right or wrong. In fact, you could even be the person at the other side of the bend, you might have erred, but when you find yourself in a situation where forgiveness is no longer an option, then its time to pack your bags and leave.
You no longer long to spend time together: Remember when you first met, and couldn’t wait to always be each other’s arms and company? All of a sudden, you look for the slightest excuse not to even hang out.
Although sometimes, situations may arise that may hinder the opportunity for you and your partner to be together, the danger lies in the loss of enthusiasm to do so even when the coast is clear.
You begin to pursue new interests secretly: While it is absolutely normal to have the desire to try out new things once in a while, it’s a bad sign when you begin to hide this new interest from the knowledge of your partner.
Healthy relationships thrive on transparency, and if you cannot be open and transparent with someone you hope to spend the rest of your life with, then there is no point in wasting anyone’s time. Just use the exit.
You begin to cheat: This is the last plug that pulls the trigger. The moment you begin to focus your attention on another human being entirely in an affectionate way, and albeit trying to hide it from your partner, that is the moment you need to up and leave.
No one deserves to be heart-broken. Though it may be hard trying to convince your partner that you need to move on. that is the best option to keep sanity in check and feelings in moderation.
You’re emotionally drained: If you can’t be there for your partner emotionally, when he/she needs it, then its time to exit the relationship. When you fail to do so, you begin to grow distant from your partner, and this could birth unwanted issues. Whatever might be the cause of the emotional drought, you need to tackle it head-on, before involving another person in the mess.
It is possible that once you have identified the cause and provided a lasting for it, that you two get back together, but till then, stay away from adding more burden to the relationship.
There are other signs that tell you personally when you need to leave the relationship, but these are the most obvious and relatable signs. You don’t need a soothsayer to convince you other-wise when this begins to manifest.
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.