WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GOING THROUGH A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
It is worthy of note that domestic violence is on the increase and we see it happen every day.
We see situations where women and even men are being abused daily.
Now what do you do when you notice your friend, sister,neighbour,colleague at work is experiencing domestic violence.
Do you judge her, criticise her or sit at a distance and say it’s her cross. A lot of people don’t know what to do really!
When you notice a friend going through domestic violence, Here are a few steps you can take
1. EARN HER TRUST
It’s a point to note that most people who are abused are always unwilling to open up and discuss their issues. Even when you notice the relationship between her and her abuser. They always live in self denial. They are afraid of being judged and they always try to be defensive. Get her in a safe place alone where she can talk. Earn her trust and get her to open up. Be mindful of how you start your conversations. Phrases like” you look unhappy lately…or I’m worried about the way you look … should be your opening line of conversation
2. Do NOT BE JUDGMENTAL OR CRITICAL
Listen to what she has to say and do not blame it judge her. A person experiencing domestic violence is crushed emotionally and has self esteem issues. You don’t want to add to that. Make her understand that it is not her fault and won’t be blamed for the behaviour of the abuser
3. SUPPORT HER AND ASSIST HER GET HELP.
You should let her know that there are organisations out there that offer help to people experiencing domestic violence. Most times they will be reluctant to take the offer. But you need to encourage them to seek help.Reassure them of your support if they decide to stay in the violent relationship and constantly remind them that everyone has a right to live free from violence.Support them if they want to go to a safe place. Do call the police if you sense any Danger
Kindly Contact the Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team Lagos on 07032165181 on any emergency
