Hello ladies, let’s talk. I know it’s hard and probably you have surfed the internet like I have done several times searching for how to say no without sounding utterly rude. Some ladies have been called mean names just for saying no to a guy they don’t like. It makes me wonder if keeping shut might help, but that seems to be the worst part of rudeness.
Well, we cannot continue thus, so here are 13 tips on how to say no without sounding rude.
Start with a happy countenance; they say that first impression matters, I believe it! You should believe it too, not just because I do but because the number of people who believe it are more than those who don’t believe.
There is no mistake when a guy approaches you, so long as he is a gentleman. Just give him that sweet peaceful aura that every girl poses, it is a free gift to you, do not present your anger just because a guy approached you or confesses his feelings for you and he happens to be someone you don’t like. Let your first meeting be kind and peaceful.
Do not use rude words “shut up”. Before people will conclude that you are rude it means you may just have passed out some rudeness, it is true that some guys acts like pests, but that should not make you mean words.
A lady who understands the power of her presence and language will not want to talk to certain types of guys especially guys that make her want to make her sound rude. Don’t say ” shut up”, instead find a way to exit his presence, look for an excuse.
Smile Often. Smiling has a way of lightening up a sad heart and changing the perception of people about who you are.
There is no harm in smiling at that guy you don’t like, it only saves you your personality and destroys nothing about you. Learn to smile often, it makes you more beautiful.
Say your ‘No’ with a finality. If you don’t want a guy and you are denying his request please so so with a finality.
Do not say ‘no’ yet you are giving off a call through your looks, approach and appearance. If you are saying no, say it and be off with it. Let your no part of your body say otherwise. Be matured and keep your tune soft, you are a woman whom a request is being asked, be kind.
Give your reasons for saying ‘No’. When you tell a guy no, expect that he is waiting for your reasons, it will make more sense to him and make you more attractive in his eyes, that way he will not think rude of you but respects you.
When giving your reasons, be honest, do not say things that will cause him to think otherwise about hiimself, respect him with your ideas and choice of words used in expressing your ‘No’.
Continue to be polite with your words. One of the biggest gift you should posses if you want to live respectably as a woman in the men’s world is politeness.
Politeness is a way of communicating in a friendly manner, passing on your message without being rude or appearing rude in the eyes of your listeners or observers.
Do not say “Don’t you ever contact me again in your life”.
An average guy who wants a girl will contact this kind of girl, why? Men like challenges, they like to win and statements like that? Is a challenge, they will like to win by keep trying to win and that means contacting you. When you use statements like that you automatically out yourself in a contest with him.
Sometimes I think that the way some guys think is in irreverse motions when they attempt to think from their emotion, it is better they use logic which is their natural number one sense, but when they want to woo you, they tend to be out of point because they try to think from emotional perspective in order to appeal to your emotion (which is the women’s natural number one sense)
Allow him to speak so that he will listen to you when you speak. Give him the opportunity to express himself.
Allowing him to speak speak shows that you are a good listener, it puts off good aura of you, secondly it prompt him to listen when you want to speak, that will a smooth communication with good understanding must have been passed.
Still affirm your ‘NO’. When you are done listening to him and all he has to say, he will expect that his story must have caused you to change your mind, it is is possible.
But if the opposite is the case, then still say your ‘no’ in the same polite manner, smile and if need be, ask to be excused.
Ask to be excused. It is not rude if you feel too uncomfortable in his presence.
Just ensure you ask in a polite manner, give a brief reason, maybe headache, no one can detect what is inside your head or anything, but be kind with your tone. You are beautiful for a reason, and one of them is that men are attracted to it, which is natural and you happen not to be the first or only person with such beauty that attracts, the issue is that you don’t like this guy, that should not warrant rudeness, be polite, because being polite elevated your beauty.
Do not Contact him. You don’t want to him around or give in to his request, then do not contact him again, let him go. If you keep contacting him he will think that where is hope for him, but if you know that you do not want him, then do not contact him.
Girls we know there is this desire to just call him and make ask him how he is doing just so he knows that we care and we are not evil! But the truth we all knows what lies underneath that our intention. We like attention! Oh! Yes, I’m a woman and I’ve asked other women and they all confirm the main purpose behind that act of ours.
Do not show fake care because he will misinterpret it. If you know that you cannot give him what he is asking for, please do not show fake cares, or maybe not fake.
But when you show someone certain level of care as per romantic relationship, it makes the person to be interested in your it can really hurt him when you keep saying ‘no’ and at the same time showing him fake cares.
You may end communication totally. If you have discovered that you cannot grant his request, hen end communication with him. You are not under any command to continue keeping km touch with him when you know he is consistent with his demand and still you won’t give in.