Trust is something we don’t see but very effective for the functioning of coexistence especially in a case where romance is involved. Imagine having sex with someone you don’t feel safe with? I mean you don’t feel comfortable being with the person and still you want to make out with him/her, it sounds weird but that is what happens when having sex with a sex hawker, that is why prostitutes are not seen as people of value or are worth being with for a longer time except for some who are self deciplined and sensible.
Imagine walking into a restaurant and it appears that the bartender is someone you once had a friction with, I mean a serious disagreement that you decided not to have anything to do with him/her, and it appears that this person is your bartender, will you feel safe? No you won’t, there will be some kind of unease.
That is what happens in romantic relationships when trust becomes an issue. Trust is first of all pure but when tainted with deceit it becomes sour and unrepairable.
Displeasure is an unpleasant feeling towards something or someone. Sometimes in a relationship, there tends to be this resentment towards your partner, maybe because there is something he/she did that you do not like or you were angered by him/her. Most of the times when people nag in a relationship, I mean nagging from both the man and the woman, it is always as a result of some resentment.
A short story:
Miss B. was in a relationship for just two months and everything her partner did was annoying for her. From his ways of talking, his ways of dressing even to his ways of eating and thinking was annoying to her, it got to a point where she started nagging at him.
He got confused and tried to talk to her about it but instead she got more angry and ended the relationship. It isn’t as if she didn’t love him or care about him but it is just that she resented his ways and she couldn’t have the patience to tell him about it or groom him into a space of options for his behavior, instead she took the drastic step and walked away.
Most relationships experience this a lot, it isn’t like it is an intentional desire to be distanced in the relationship but you just drift apart in terms of connections, you don’t feel like calling or like you’re missing your partner in any way.
The line just falls and you are falling alongside it. Have you ever felt far away even though you are very close to your partner? I mean you are together but still you feel a huge space between you both, yes it happens! Sometimes the hearts of lovers become distant and this is a sign that your relationship is a brick of falling, it is so because there cannot be distance in the heart of two people who claim to be deeply in love with each other.
You ever had an argument with your partner before, you both know who is at fault but the problem is that he/she is being defensive? He/she doesn’t want to accept that she/he is at fault, rather the person is looking for ways to exclude the blame from him/herself.
This distance is caused by several reasons among them are;
Lack of proper communication
Lack of eye contact
When you notice that your relationship lacks the above four factors, then be sure to know that there will be a heartfelt distance between you both and by doing so, your relationship is not in good state.
Respect for your partner is something that is supposed to come naturally to you because there is the presence of affection in your heart towards your partner. But when all the odds happen and you lose respect for each other, it means that your relationship will not be able to withstand pressure.
Disrespect causes you to be challenging in things that should have been done without an atom of challenge if normally there was respect. Things that do not require you to raise your voice when talking will occur and you will not know that you are losing control until you finally end the relationship and start thinking out of the box.
You may have seen or heard of other couples battling with lies in their relationship, it isn’t as if they intend to have their union on the basis of lies but it occurs! The only thing is that when lies start becoming the order of the relationship it pulls the trust out and creates countless numbers of doubts.
On the occasion of lies, the love becomes weak and struggles to grow and if the love is not growing then the union is bound to fail. If you want to save your relationship then you have to consciously cut the lies and be honest with each other at all times.
Sometimes this feeling of worthlessness comes later after you have been with a particular person for a period of time. You may think or feel that your partner is not up to your standard anymore therefore not worthy of you or if it is the other way round, you may feel unworthy to be with your partner.
This is a feeling of inferiority and it comes when growth is occurring only in the life of one person and not the other. The partner in which growth is occurring in his/her direction may feel too high to have you as a partner or if it is the other way round, then the partner with nothing as growth is occurring in his/her direction may feel too worthless to be associated with you whose life is growing with evidence
Therefore, it is advisable that you both experience growth even though it will come differently. Be patient with others and do not see yourself to be too below or too above your partner, it sends the wrong signal and that is capable of ending something beautiful.