Hey Ladies! It’s that time of the year when you should start to Filter, yes filter all those female friends of yours. You know those female friends who don’t add value but try to pull you down and dull your shine. I’m about to show you 10 Toxic Female Friendships you should avoid ASAP, if you are determined to move to the next level of your life.
First and Foremost, I must warn you it takes courage and guts to let go off something negative in your life. It’s not that easy to let go of something that has probably been part of your life but with courage and strength, you sure can let go of friendships of no value.
Here are 10 Toxic Female Friendships you should avoid
1. ENVIOUS AND JEALOUS FEMALE FRIENDS
Honestly Ladies, I don’t know how you girls do it but a Jealous friend is a No No. This is the most toxic relationships of the 10 Toxic Female Friendships you should avoid. A Jealous female friend never wishes you well deep down in her heart and most times is unhappy with her own life. The minute things start to happen for you, when good things happen to you, you sense their Jealousy. It’s so bad that even when they tend to fake it,deep down you can sense it. You can always feel them constantly sending you the “evil eye” It is a point to note that some women can be envious and Jealous but not in a negative way. Some women can say “oh I love your shoes,I wish I owned them,” She can say this in an innocent way, like if I don’t own those shoes it ain’t the end of the world and will be happy and rejoice with you the owner of the shoes, but you see those mean Jealous ones are the ones to avoid.
Jealousy is like a parasite inside of one’s self, it creates an irritating feeling inside of one’s self and the feeling brings its self to the surface and you see the person acting it out unconsciously. You can always tell a Jealous person. Jealousy is such a negative aura. A Jealous friend tends to pull one down. They are never happy for you. If you have one around you, try and filter it out and see how your life will accelerate. Jealousy is such a negative Energy. If you want to reach your goals and be successful in life, Cut off Jealous Friends and women from your life
2. THE NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY. Here we see the aggressive female who is always critical of you. Always assuming that they are the best and have their ways of doing things and always want you to do as they have done. A Narcissistic behaviour is passive aggressive in the sense that they constantly criticize whoever is close to them. They have this self inflated belief about themselves and they are constantly hostile and cynical. Having such a friend around you is of no value.They make you feel you owe them and should be obeying them in one way or the other. They consistently use passive aggressive behaviour to emotionally blackmail and manipulate you. A Narcissist is a very toxic person and should be avoided. A Narcissist is hard to change, don’t even bother trying to change one. If you spot one, just run.
3 MALICIOUS GOSSIP FRIENDS
Gossip peddlers are a No No. There are one of the 10 Toxic Female Friendships you should avoid. The thing about this sort of friends is as the gossip maliciously about others to you, they ll definitely gossip the same way about you to others. They sit and run down successful women and peddle rumours about them. Anyways, it’s a point to note that there are idle gossips, we all know women like to sit around and communicate, talk and have fun. However, we all know when it gets malicious and outright petty. Malicious people are not hard to find, you can always tell them. Hardly can you see any successful, hardworking Lady who wants to reach her goals engage in Malicious gossips. So choose your friends wisely
4. NEGATIVELY MINDED FEMALE FRIENDS
There are some friends who just emanate negative Energy. They just have this negative aura around them. They never see the good around them, and all they do is complain and drain you. You really cannot progress with this sort of friend around you. You need to emanate positive energy to attract success, don’t let this sort of friends drag you into their mess.
5. A FRIEND WHOSE LIFE IS FULL OF DRAMA
Of course this is one of the 10 Toxic Female Friendships you should avoid This sort of friend always has all manner of drama going on in her life. This sort of friend is akin to the draining type as she constantly wants you to always bail her out from one drama event or the other. More like a drama queen
6. TROUBLE MAKER
Just like the drama queen, the trouble maker is also getting herself into various embarrassing situations. This type of friend gets herself into trouble and definitely you will be associated with such. It’s important to note that the type of friends you have reflects you. It tells on your personal brand
7 ATTENTION SEEKER
The attention seeker is a friend who constantly wants to be noticied and validated. Sometimes they can be so desperate about this and would do anything to get noticied. Talk about hanging out with your friends and all the attention seeker wants to do is desperately get noticied. Some even go as far as flashing their boobs just to get noticied. You need to distant yourself from.people who are in desperate or chronic need for attention and as pointed earlier your friends reflect you.
8. FLIRTY FRIEND
The flirty friend is surely one to avoid as such a friend most times is dangerous especially when you are in a relationship. Such friends would flirt with your partner. Some might call it innocent flirty behaviour but such behaviour is totally unacceptable. You must learn to set boundaries with such a friend. When you notice such behaviour from a friend, call her to order and speak to her about it. If she refuses to change, show her the door
9, A NEGATIVELY COMPETITIVE FRIEND
It’s okay to compete with your female friend,but when it gets malicious and negative, it’s sure one of the 10 Toxic Female Friendships you should avoid. A friend who maliciously and negatively compares and competes with you is not a healthy friendship at all. When you are doing well, a negatively competitive friend will never be happy for you.
10. A FRIEND WHO LIKES USING YOU
Oh yeah, talk about a friend who likes using you, someone who leeches off you and is in the friendship for her own agenda and self interest. Someone who constantly receives and never offers any favours back. This particular friend is in the relationship for her own selfish reasons. This sort of friendship is always all about her taking and receiving from you and she never gives back. When you need her she ll tell you she’s busy and all. Never there to return any favours. This sort of relationship just like the others is definitely one of the 10 Toxic Female Friendships you should avoid. It is definitely not a balanced friendship at all.
Jenny Soul is a passionate relationships expert, dating counselor and sales coach. She is also a songwriter, performer and mum. When she is not writing, she engages in counselling sessions and motivational speeches to young people.