HELP!!! MY MARRIAGE IS FALLING APART BECAUSE I HAVE A MALE BEST FRIEND
“and where are you going? My husband Steve had asked. Oh i’ m off to help Kenny plan his parents anniversary. You heard him the last time he was here. I need to help him get stuff down the Mall. You know him, a bloody scatter brain.
Scatter brain indeed, Steve muttered. Kenny was our mutual friend but he and I had become very close friends more like best friends. “So you are going to be gallivanting all over town with a single guy under the guise of helping him plan his parents anniversary huh”I could hear my husband say again as he sauntered into the living room area. Oh well I don’t think I’m in the mood for that tone of voice of yours right now.i muttered. He shot me a cold stare. One that really pierced my heart. I grabbed my car keys from the Console Table and went out the door. I felt a prickling to my conscience, was I doing the right thing. Is having a Male best friend Right for my marriage …??
There is nothing wrong in couples having friends of the opposite sex but when you single out a particular opposite sex and use the term best friend… here are 5 Things to consider
1. CLOSE FRIENDSHIPS HAVE A LEVEL OF EMOTIONAL INTIMACY.
Close friendships amongst same sex ie females have a high level of emotional bond same goes with the opposite sex. Such closeness tend to create a wedge between you and your partner. A bond is formed between you and your male best friend which leaves your husband out as an outsider. This sort of bond might turn into an unhealthy attachment.
2. YOU TEND TO COMPARE AND CONTRAST
There’s room here for you to measure up your partner vis-a-vis your Male best friend. Your Male Best friend will never tell you to take out the thrash for instance like a husband would,or have an argument with you on how bills would be paid Etc. These are Marriage Realities. Male best friends are good conversationalist and always have a listening ear.
3. LEARN TO SET BOUNDARIES
Every relationship should have reasonable boundaries for it to be healthy.
4. MARRIAGE NEEDS NURTURING
For your marriage to be successful it needs time and nurturing. Times spent with a Male best friend eludes you of time to be spent with your spouse. You need to spend quality time with your partner to build up your marital relationship
5. GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT
If your best friend is causing issues in your marriage, you might have to take inventory and choose between your marriage and best friend. A good male best friend is supposed to respect your marriage and bolt.
