Hi Ladies this post is exclusively for you ..Last time we had this baby mama talk, we put a question out there…we asked “Is baby mama by Choice or Circumstance.Some said by Choice others were of the opinion that it’s by Circumstance. Now Ladies if you are not ready to become a Single mum or a baby mama. Please watch out for these sign and how to identify guys who can never get to commit to a relationship
1.WHEN HIS PURSUIT IS INTENSE
In the beginning of such relationships you find out that the guy tends to pursue you so intensely, this is the time to slow him down.Do not fall for all those long romantic text messages or chats. All those social media trolling and DMs. This is the time to use your head, when you haven’t fallen in love yet and slow the pursuit down. You don’t need to get carried away by his whirlwind romance. The point to note here is this,if you fall quickly for his pursuit or chase, the quickly the relationship fizzles out, leaving you confused and trying to comprehend the heat of his pursuit and how quickly he turned cold. A lot of women find it hard to believe that a man who pursued her so intensely can turn so cold and brutal. Ladies be wary of that cycle and take charge of the relationship from the beginning.
2.WHEN HE STARTS TO TALK ABOUT FOREVER WITH YOU AT THE BEGINNING
Ladies be wary of such guys who tend to talk forever at the beginning of a relationship. That is a ploy to dismantle you and get you to do what they want as well as mess with your head and emotions. A man who wants to spend the rest of his life with you will take his time to get to know you first. Be wary of guys who tend to call you “my Wife” or add their surnames to your name when addressing you. That’s a big ploy…be wary
3. WHEN IT’S CLEAR YOU BOTH ARE NOT COMPATIBLE AND YOU ARE STILL IN THE RELATIONSHIP
How do you get to know someone…its basically trough communication and ones action. When you meet someone new, get to pay attention to what he says and what he doesn’t say, his body language, his actions with you and others.When someone says “i’m a private person” and you know your life is in the public eye That should put you in a position to ask yourself if you can have a sustainable relationship with this person. Or if the guy says I live in Bauchi” that should get you thinking if you should leave your lucrative job at Chevron Lagos to go join him in Bauchi. A lot of relationships are doomed from the beginning but we tend to leave things to chance but the fact still remains that the signs were always there. Be the one to apply the brakes as such times,because we see a cycle where men still go ahead to date a woman who they know they are not compatible with, thereby messing with the lady’s emotions.
4 WHEN THE RELATIONHIP IS ONE SIDED/ HE IS NOT INVOLVED
A relationship is supposed to be a two way street. When a man is not making an effort is a time to ‘re evaluate the relationship. When you seem to be the one driving all the way to see him, when you are the one buying all the stuffs, making all the plans etc is a tell tale sign that the man is waiting for you to end the relationship yourself. You find out that he is not involved, makes every available excuse and doesn’t even seem to want to introduce you to any of his friends or relatives. Such guys do that so that when the relationship is over they leave clean. Watch out in a relationship When it becomes one sided and call the guy’s attention to it.
5. HE DROPS SIGNS THAT HE WANTS OUT
When a guy wants you out of his life he begins to leave signs that he wants out. He cheats openly, he leaves you out of his plans ie makes excuses during holidays etc. The guy at this point apparently feels choked and trapped in the relationship and like a cat wants out. Meanwhile at the beginning of the relationship he called you Mrs (his surname) giving you the impression of forever. This is the point where women get confused and begin to wonder and blame themselves for causing the man to act negatively. Sweetheart, it’s not your fault, you just got entangled with a player. Don’t blame yourself for his negative behaviour. Take care of yourself and begin to count your losses and leave the relationship
5. HE CONSTANTLY COMES BACK AFTER A BREAK UP
When you finally summon courage and the will to end the relationship he keeps coming back to plead and beg and ask for another chance, because you are still in love, you allow him, you give him another chance and the Cycle repeats it’s self again. This time it’s faster. He pursues you intensely as before and the whole cycle of the relationship repeats itself again until it ends. You might be doing yourself a favour by allowing your head rule your heart and put your foot down as to what you want in a Relationship.To be treated Right!!!
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